Sunday, September 15, 2013

Excerpts from Aug. 26 to Sep. 9



August 26, 2013
I had no idea they were building a new Westmore. Weird. I've been gone for a year which is weird to think about because I really doesn't feel that long, but yet it does feel like forever. It's also weird to think that there are other things there that have changed that would be normal for you but would be crazy for me. 
I'm having fun. We recently got a new bishopric and we're really happy/excited. 
It's really cool, there is a Sister in my district that studied opera at BYUI and is amazing, so we sing together and it's really really nice haha. We're actually singing in a mall in a place called Jamaica, Queens for a concert. We each are doing 2-3 solos and then the choir is doing other numbers. I'm excited. It won't be too big, I'm just excited for the chance to sing. Still no idea what I'm going to do for it though. 
Anyway, my plantar fascia is fine. It hasn't been hurting too much. Only occasionally.

September 2, 2013
We don’t email at a library now, so I can email today even though it is a holiday.  We're starting English classes this week. I'm happy, nearly 3 months without it. I miss it. 

September 9, 2013
I didn't even realize that __ was old enough to be in college, but I guess she is. What's weird is that all the people who were in high school with me have now graduated.  I now know no one that goes to MV.  Or let me rephrase that, there now isn't anyone there I actually went to the same school at the same time. Weird.
Transfers are next week.  This week is going to be crazy.  I have a rehearsal for the mall concert Thursday, rehearsal for a different concert in Staten Wednesday, the actual Staten concert Friday, and the mall concert Saturday. Then Saturday night we have transfer calls which tell us if we stay or go.
I'm also excited because on Sept 11 they always light up the freedom tower, and it is a magnificent sight. There is a park with one of the greatest views in NY of Manhattan and I'm going to be in the area for the rehearsal so I'll get to see it. 
English classes have been great so far. We've only had 2 so far, and there haven't been as many people as I have had in other areas, but more members have come to this than in any of my other areas. So I'm really happy about that.  The ward is good. Things are getting done. It's nice.
I saw a dog that was Kye, but the regular size instead of a toy (as in type of breed.) Exact same color, markings, and bobbed tail. It made me miss Kye SO MUCH!!!!  I obviously miss you too, but I get to “talk” to you, so you know I love you haha.
This past week I went to the temple for my year mark. It was a really nice trip. I got to see everyone who was in my MTC district. It was a nice little reunion. Dad, have you seen the new video?  I like it a LOT more.  There's actual emotion. So much better. And it actually makes visual references to science in a way of saying "God works through science." I really enjoyed it.
Found out we'll be getting Facebook/social media next month. I'm not a fan, but we'll see. I plan on sticking to tumblr for my "proselyting" and staying away from fb, because I don't want to have to deal with "cleaning up" my profile. Still not sure what all is going to happen with that or how it will work. Oh well. It'll be interesting. 
Well I hope everything is good. Good luck with school.

Friday, August 23, 2013

Excerpts from emails on 8/12 and 8/19



August 12, 2013

So this week we have __'s baptism. We're excited. 

I really only speak Spanish when I'm around members or Spanish people... or when Elder Erickson and I want to speak and don't want anyone to understand haha. We do a district language study everyday where Elder Erickson and I teach the others Spanish principles. 

This past week at transfers president announced something cool. We now get to go to the temple every 6 months instead of year and 2 years. I get gypped out of 1 trip, but that's still 3 more. Erickson and I are irked cuz now we have to go with the 6 monthers and 1 1/2-ers. We want our year trip to be special dangit! Oh well.

We do service every Wednesday in a place called Prospect Park. Some of us wear our vests; others don't. I don't because I'm doing this for service, not to bring attention to myself. Plus it looks like a group of convicts picking up trash as a punishment.

I MISS KYE SO BAD. I take advantage of every single dog I see! I miss my puppy... who isn't a puppy anymore.


August 19, 2013

[In response to a comment I made about how my comps and I didn’t ever see other missionaries during the week and sometimes only once a month.]  Yeah, Dad, it is interesting how in other missions you are never close with the other missionaries. We see each other every day for long periods of time.

Well things here this week have been worth it.  A lot of crap happened, but it was all made worth it by the fact that __ got baptized on Saturday. It was hectic and stressful, but it worked out. There was drama about who from the ward was doing what, but it all turned out fine. Sister Franklin and I sang a musical number, and I gave a talk; Elder Adams baptized and Elder Rogers confirmed on Sunday. Now it took me till Sunday to really realize that everything had turned out alright. Before sacrament meeting (and the confirmation) __ came up to me and said, "Elder Goates, I brought my tithing!!!" We had only taught about tithing briefly and definitely did not tell him to bring tithing. The kid is 11 and wasn't even a "member" yet and wanted to pay tithing. He really is amazing. He then went to tell me that "last night I prayed and I felt something really different! It was so cool!!!" I love him so much. He is truly amazing. He is the true definition of what missionaries want. I am incredibly lucky. Later his mom talked with Elder Adams and told him how when she was watching her son get baptized she felt something amazing and knew this was right. The next Sunday she was there and paid her tithing too. The truth is that during the baptism I was worried because it felt hectic, and I didn't feel calm and spiritual, so I thought that no one else did. I was wrong. So this is a reminder to me not to sweat the little things and how this baptism was for them and in no way for me (which I never thought it was in anyway before, but just a reminder.)

The other day we went stopped at the beach on our way home. It was incredibly relaxing and wonderful to just get my feet wet and walk on the sand. The serenity of the night sky with the sound of the ocean was really nice. Of course not as nice as it would be with the family, but it was a good reminder of times at the beach. It is also really cool because there is a nice little boardwalk with shops and restaurants. The specific area we were in is a fairly Russian area, and when we came up and washed our feet off, we saw a large group of people on the boardwalk and music. We went over and there was just a bunch of people of all ages dancing to the Russian music. It was awesome. People talk of the cool cultural things that happen in their missions, and I realized this was the one of those things that I would talk about and never forget. It was really cool. It was also recently the Muslim holiday, and it was really fun to see all the festivals and attire. It was just awesome. I'd always wanted to attend one of these festivals, and I did haha!



Sunday, August 11, 2013

correction

I couldn't get the video or voice recording to upload.  I will try later--J.D.'s dad

Excerpts from letters, transcripts of voice recording, one short recording, and pictures



July 29
We are teaching this kid. A less-active member's son. He's super cool and really cool. He is going to be baptized a week from Saturday... we think haha. It's not so sure, but maybe. The problem is that he's young and comes with his next door neighbors (of his own will btw.) He shows up knocking on their door telling them it's time to go to church. He's 10. Awesome. But we want his mom to come so it's easier for him to keep coming. 

Anyway, transfers are next week. This transfer has gone by in the blink of an eye. It's crazy! I have no idea what's going to happen. I could stay, go, get a new companion. ANYTHING! I want to stay, so we'll see.

I also had a cool experience where I was able to talk to a woman on the bus. She had been having a really hard time and felt alone in the world. Thanks to a guy named _ who knew the English missionaries, we got talking to her and gave her the names of the people who could help her and the missionaries. I briefly talked to her about things that had happened in my life and how this had really helped me get out of a downward spiral of depression. She wanted to know about our church and knew exactly where we're located, seeing as she lives down the street. So that was incredible. She said that this had happened for a reason. She had almost missed the bus, but knew this was supposed to happen. That was really amazing. Who knows what will happen with her, but what I do know is that I influenced someone for the better that day and hopefully helped her realize that there are people out there, even strangers, that care. 

Yesterday the presiding bishop over the entire church attended our ward with some building people. Kinda cool. More important was the (gossiped) "reason" they were there. Supposedly they're thinking of rebuilding. I hope not. The current church is an old Catholic church that the LDS church bought and refurbished. You would love it, Mom. It's very nice on the inside. I like because it's not a standard cookie cutter church. It reminds me very much of the old St Francis.

August 5
I'm not getting transferred and neither is my companion. So we are staying together for another 6 weeks at least. Our district is mostly staying the same with exception to one sister leaving. So we'll get a new sister but the other 5 of us are staying.

I really liked your talk, Dad. I also like when you said things would change that we didn't quite see yet.

A member brought the subject of gays up to me. It's funny because my district weren't surprised that it would happen to me. Anyway, the member asked what we do if someone confesses that they are gay. I simply replied, nothing. As long as they are living the law of chastity the church has no problem with it. He then asked about therapy and I explained that aversion therapy was no longer supported by the head of the church. It was a very good conversation.

A short voice recording is posted, but from two others I have just put in a transcript of parts of them:

We do service at a place called Prospect Park most Wednesdays.  I’ve tar on my legs now.  Tar on the legs hurts because I have harry legs.  Harry legs plus tar equals unhappiness.  Afterwards, the missionaries do Wendy’s Wednesdays.  Today on the way there we got caught in a downpour; I was wetter than I’ve almost ever been, but it was fun because I wasn’t in a shirt and tie—what we call pross—because we had just done service.

Right now I am just waiting for Elder Adams to shower so we can out and do something productive.  Things are pretty good here.  I really like it; I like my district a lot.  We do this thing we call elliptical.  The point of it is that we mainly work around the church.  We don’t go far away but try to find people around the church.  We do this so that a) they are more likely to come to church and b) so that we can strengthen the area around the church and expand outwards and eventually start building more churches.  So, to do this, we do things we call elliptical activities or street sweeps, which are things where we go out and set up a table an do interesting little things and talk to people.  One time we painted a tree onto a big board and called it the family tree.  We asked people, what do you like about your family and will you write it down on this leaf and tape it to the tree?  And then, if they are interested, we talk to them about families and stuff like that.  All in all it works pretty well for English but not so well for Spanish, so we’re trying to figure what to do for Spanish.  We are probably going to start teaching English class here.  It hasn’t been done here, and I am a huge fan of it.  I feel like that is where I’ve learned most of my Spanish. 


Not too much happening; Elder Adams and I just having a good time doing good things and teaching people.  We are working with the members trying to get them to like the missionaries again.  They haven’t all been the biggest fan of missionaries.  We can understand why, because missionaries can be idiots.  I recently had an amazing exchange with a kid who I was with in the MTC, an Elder Erickson, whose is now my district leader, and I really like him. 

We went into Manhattan for a doctor’s appointment and ran into a lot of people.  We were on the subway switching trains, and I accidentally took us down the wrong side of train tracks, and it was actually really good that that happened because this guy stopped us and said, hey, are you guys Mormons.  And we were like, yeah, and he said, my great great grandfather was Brigham Young.  And we were like, what?  No way.  That’s crazy.  And he said, yeah, and pulled out his ID to show us that his name is Young.  Adams and I were both thinking, do you know how many people have the last name Young, but we didn’t say that for obvious reasons.  Anyway it was cool, and he talked to us and said have you seen the Book of Mormon musical; how do you feel about it?  And I said, eh, you have to be able to laugh at yourself.  He says, that is very true.  If someone were to make a movie of my life, I would have to laugh at it too.  There would be some parts that would be offensive, if you took it that way, but I’d have to laugh at myself because I do some stupid things.  I said, that is a good attitude to have.

So, as we were talking to him, he says, so you guys know you’re on the wrong side of the track.  And I tried to play it off like yeah we have to go into Manhattan for an appointment [ah, pride], and Adams is like what, we just finished the appointment.  And I am saying, no, no, we are from Brooklyn, we’re not going to Brooklyn now.  So, then he pulls out his phone and starts to look up the route.  And this is when it is better to just suck up your pride and admit that you are wrong.  But I was just like, no, we’re good; we know what we’re doing.  Because you know me; I don’t like looking like an idiot.  He just kept trying to help us out, and so I finally looked at his phone and said, oh, you know what, you’re right, we are on the wrong side, thanks.  Then he said, do you have a Book of Mormon?  We used to have one, but when we moved we lost it.  So, we gave him one, and then he gave Elder Adams his card.  We called him to see if we could give his information to the missionaries in Queens.

Most of the pictures are from the district P-Day trip on the Staten Island Ferry.
 



Current compaion, Elder Adams, on left and Elder Erickson.


Monday, July 22, 2013

Excerpts from June 24 to July 22


June 24
To start off, the concert went very very well. I'm going to try and figure out a way to send you the numbers. I was very happy about it. Unfortunately we didn't have the turnout from the members we were expecting, but we did have more non-members than we were expecting. So that was good. A member who I have gotten close with told me she cried when her daughter and I sang. Her daughter also said, "I cried when you sang. I never cry. Ever. AND I got chills." So that made me happy. The daughter is a really awesome girl who plays trumpet and sings.

As for transfers, they haven't happened yet. They're on Tuesday, but we know I'm leaving. I kind of had a feeling I would, but there was always a chance I would stay. The next cool thing is that Elder Waidmann is now training!!! This, mind you, is immediately after he finished getting trained. I would like to take credit, but Elder Waidmann was pre-trained. Guess I didn't mess him up TOO bad. Darn... :P He's worried, but I'm really excited for him. He is definitely ready and will do great. Plus, I'm happy to be getting a grandson. :D So with that I've made about 300 cookies (that is not an exaggeration) for all the members that have helped me and gotten close with me. My week's been full of visiting and saying goodbye to all my members. I was really happy this Sunday because a Less-Active member I started working with 8 months ago finally came to church this Sunday. It was a wonderful last Sunday for me. I found that most of the ward was really sad I was leaving. A lot more than I thought would. It was really nice and I was able to take a lot of pictures. I'm sad, but I'm ready... sin the packing part, but when do I not pack the night beforehand haha.

Yes, we got to see the broadcast, but sadly I showed up late and didn't get to hear the actual part of the fb/tours thing. We're excited though. Also, I knew at least one person in EVERY SINGLE VIDEO CLIP. Did you see that one of the "missionaries" was Brandon Christiansen. Also, I knew the missionaries in the clip about the "drought" and a few in the choir. Crazy! I loved Elder Packer's talk. I thought it was perfect. I've found that just giving it up to the Lord when teaching is not 2nd nature but that when I do, it goes perfectly and the spirit really directs me in the way that is right.

I don't know where I'm going now, but we'll know tomorrow. I love you a lot. Going to try and send more pictures today. [the pictures didn’t come through]

July 1
So I ended up getting my ball that was stolen. Turns out it wasn't my ball that we thought someone had and one of the members picked it up because we'd left it and then they got it back to us. So woo. Haha nothing too big. 

To start things off, we'll talk about how my last day with Elder Waidmann went. After I emailed you last Monday, I went to my Spanish "family"’s house to say goodbye and to give them the cookies. It was a good time. Then I went and dropped by the Sonrisa woman to give her her cookie and say goodbye. She was surprised to say the least and cried a lot. Not sure whether it was because I was leaving or the gratitude for visiting her or both. Either way, I was really touched and of course there were many tears on my part. It was very nice and was a good way to end my time in Dyker Heights. 

Next day was transfer meeting. E. Waidmann got his "kid", my "grandson"; we got a posterity pic and sat down for the meeting. A lot of good stuff. I got placed in the place we all were pretty sure I was going. I am now in a place called Midwood. It is legitmately 2 miles from my last area, so I didn't move very far. In fact, many of the members in Dyker had been members here before boundaries got changed. So I'm really close haha. Now I'm with Elder Adams. He's really cool. I'm his "step-pops." We actually went to high school together. He graduated a year after me. We had never seen each other before but knew all the same people. In fact, his mom was once my boss. She was one of my referee coordinators. So that was pretty cool. Someone knew him before I became his comp and said, did you know Adam's mom. I was like, "why would I know her?" "She's a ref coordinator." I was like, "No I...... OH MY GOSH HIS MOM IS PAM!" So that was really funny. And then we became companions. Crazy. We get along really well. We're different, but in a good way. We're trying to get things started in this area. It's kind of hit a lull for a while, so we're trying to get it moving again. That makes it sound like it's me doing it, but it's just that I'm picking up where the last guy left off.  In my district here, I am with one of my friends who was in my MTC district so that's really nice. I'm friends with all the people here, so that's really good. I really like this district. 

Things have been pretty good otherwise. We do a lot of activities to try and find people to teach because this place had been worked over at least 40x and new things need to be done. So we did an activity called "family tree" where we put up a paper tree and ask people to write down the things they love about their family. It's actually pretty good. We asked a guy as he was walking and he pointed, snapped, and said, "SMOKE MARIJUANA BOYS!" And kept walking casually. It made our day. 

Well that's really it for now. On Thursday we're going to Coney Island for the 4th as our Pday. we're only emailing now because the libraries won't be open on the 4th, obviously.

July 8
This week has been pretty good. It's weird having a birthday on the mission. It doesn't feel any different whatsoever. That's ok cuz it was a fun day. My district did something really nice for me. They made me a cake and we had a good time. Cake, friends, and soda, what's better than that for a birthday? Nothing haha. That day we did service, which was a really good bday break. I love doing service. We just helped people put up insulation and dry wall. Very different than the destroying we had been doing just 10 months ago. So all in all, it was a wonderful bday. 
I got your guys' package the day after my birthday actually. Someone had picked it up from the office. It was great. I got some recordings down and I'm going to try and send them.

I got a very nice card from Barb. Tell her thank you so much. I really can use the subway giftcard because they are expensive here but are the most healthy and thing I am willing to eat on a regular basis.

[Steve: I debated about including this sad story in J.D.’s blog, but here it is]
As for my "grandparents", his son was a douche and threatened to cut him off from his grandkids if he didn't move to long island with him, and the son hated [the to-be wife] and wouldn't let him get married. [The son] is abusive. And I literally mean abusive. So he couldn't get married and stopped letting the missionaries come over, but he was very sad and crying about it; you can tell it wasn't his choice. Now I'm gone and I have no idea what's happened.

We went to Coney Island for the 4th. It was a wonderful time. I watched a man devour 69 hotdogs in 10 min.  I never thought I'd get such enjoyment from watching a grown man shove a lot of wieners down his throat. ;) De chiste, but it really was funny how into it you get when you watch them and want the reigning champ to beat his record. (he did btw, by 1)

Things are going well here. I had a really cool experience. I talked to this woman in Portuguese. We were just talking to random people on the street and she came up and was trying to speak English with the English missionaries so I went over to try and help thinking she was Spanish. I said something in Spanish and she went off speaking. I understood it all and thought it was in Spanish. She then stops and says, "you speak Spanish." I was really confused. Then she was like, "I'm speaking Portuguese." It was a really crazy experience and very cool. Luckily another missionary came over who speaks Portuguese, so I left it to him haha, but it was one for the records.

Well that's really it for here. We're still getting things started. Nothing much is new. Just having a grand old time. I'm happy. I think a new area really helps.

July 22
Lots of heat. It's cooling down though which is nice.  Glad Timberline was good, Dad.  And yes, I do know Joseph and Isaac. I love the Meacham family. They are so awesome. And yes, people still hang out on the streets in the evenings here. 

Life has been pretty great. We recently started teaching a new person and it's going great. This last Saturday I went to a wedding of a couple in my old area. I loved it. It was awesome. Everyone had missed me and they were so happy to see me. It was very nice to see. It reminded me that I am loved.  It's what I needed. I was able to see all the people I had affected, the fact that I had touched hearts, I had helped people in the way I wanted. I couldn't see it when I was there, but I could see it when I went back. That was what I needed. It reminded me of why I'm here; my original reason. It also gave me the fire to be my own missionary. So it was very good for me. It was good to be able to look back and say I really did do something and was successful.